Do you ever have those days when you wake up and wonder ‘Where did I go?’ Where did that energetic, motivated and confident girl go? The one that liked to see her friends and stay out late and not worry about getting children to school the next day.
I miss her.
And when you look in that mirror you see a tired woman staring back who carries a gallon of mummy guilt around on her back.
Becoming a mum changes our identity and instead of enjoying this amazing transition, we feel like ‘Hang on a flippen’ minute! Someone stole my sparkle!’ It’s not something we are ever warned about and it’s not something that’s really talked about. It’s the norm to carry on regardless but how on earth does our society and our partners expect us to come off our motherhood merry-go-round experience and emerge mentally and physically unaffected?
This sets us up for feeling like we’re not coping and we’re in this alone. And it’s normal for us not to speak up just incase we’re shamed, embarrassed or feel like a failure.
The systematic return of your sparkle is when the ‘you before kids’ and the ‘mummy you’ finally synchronise…when you take time to calibrate and find that balance, so you can redefine who YOU are. There are so many changing phases of motherhood though so it can be hard to keep up with the constant recalibration of our identity and it takes its toll on our mental and physical state.
You are not alone ladies. Women feel like exactly like this ALL over the world. I have suffered the same feeling of my identity being snatched the moment I became a mum. I did the ‘it’ll be okay’ thing and kept it in and silently grieved for ME to come back.
This was me 8 years ago.
After getting myself out of that dark mental place, I eventually worked out a way to reignite my identity by making it my priority to snatch it back.
Now, my mission and my absolute passion is to empower other mums so they can identify what they truly want and need from their life and then show them how they can make that their reality. My vision is that every mum who wants to make that positive change whilst raising their family can get the know-how, support and inspiration it takes to turn their vision into reality and achieve their version of happiness, on their terms.
With me as your mentor, whether it’s in my group mentor program or on a one to one basis, you’ll find a caring, understanding and motivational support partner, because becoming a mother, changes our world in the way only another mother can truly understand. If you would like to talk to me about the ways you can work with me, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’d be happy to arrange a time to call you back.